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#Entitled: Leave a trail and don't leave a wound!
#by: maql5katib
It is from the wisdom of God in this universe that he makes the world a place of trial, and that it is a temporary station, no matter how great or how great the worries are, they will come to an end. He is rewarded for his patience.
And from his mercy, that he put in the hearts of people for those around them love, kindness, and mercy, so we see many people pulling the hand of this group with love and honesty, and giving them all the necessary support to complete this journey with success and strength.
But: here we ask a question, is there positive and negative support? Can support go from containment to abuse?
God created the universe and made us all vary in the intensity of our patience and endurance, and just as there is no effective medicine that cures all diseases, so there is no one method that all people accept.
For example: when we meet someone who is sick or even with special abilities, we rush to help him and talk about his heroism by enduring pain and overcoming difficulties, we talk about how he was a hero and we point out his endurance strength in every forum.
But did we ask ourselves if he is really happy with this or makes him remember everything he went through? Is this really what he needs?
It may work with several people; But here we neglected his need and desire to receive different support, and here the support turns from positive to negative.
There is also a provocative simplification method, so that we ignore all his difficult circumstances, his challenges and his pain, and with the intent of support we tell him that it is not worth, and compare him to so-and-so who endure more severe circumstances, or we tell him that it is just childish pampering and there is no need for all of this.
We may be aware in our hearts that the pain is difficult, and it may really not be that difficult, but in any way this is not called support as much as it is an underestimation of his weakness and pain as if it is not our concern.
The third method falls under the exaggeration of expression.
We see some people strongly controlled by their emotions, turning them into excessive support, help, comfort, relief, and expressions of sadness, which gives the other party a strong feeling of his helplessness, and that he is hopeless in his condition, and that he will not be able to complete his life without relying on others, which leaves in Inside him a sense of weakness, depression, surrender and frustration.
As for how to turn every negative support into a positive one: very simply, every method that gives the other person a feeling of happiness, hope, and strength without exaggeration or negligence is positive support.
We help them, yes, but as much as they need, we do not close the curtain on their pain if this is not their desire, we make them feel that we realize the extent of their pain, but at the same time we realize that relief is near and that God, if He loves a slave, afflicts him.
We don't hear all the tragedy of their journey, and sometimes leaving them alone for a while to be with themselves a little bit is a form of support.
Conclusion:
Life is a journey, and we all have to go through it, and God created us to motivate and benefit each other, so none of us will be able to reach if we cross alone, and at the same time, no one can pass the journey from the other.
Therefore, let us pull on our hands gently and tenderly, do not pull hard and break, nor be excessively soft and stumble, and let us remember that hope and pain are both the same letters.
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